I wanted to post this on the website/blog for anyone who feels that they feel extremely unhappy about their height that I can do some personal counseling, therapy, or coaching either for free or a very low cost ($20/hr) if they are extremely dissatisfied with their life because of of their lack of height. If your situation is particularly serious, of course I would be willing to do some therapy for free. There might be some issues which I can’t help with if the cause is biochemical in nature. Words can only go so far. I am not licensed to write prescription drugs.

I actually started and my own life coaching company that is based in the Pacific Northwest part of the USA, Seattle. My main focus on coaching and therapy is towards men, and helping men figure out and deal with their deep issues and insecurities. However for this specific area of Height Growth & Development, I have enough expertise to help both genders. Contact me through the email above if you desire some form of help in either your struggles or your pursuits.

In terms of credentials, certifications, and training, I have NONE. I don’t intend to be dishonest or lie about that issue. My undergraduate degree was actually in engineering with a specialty in physics and the sciences. I got into Self Help and Personal Development maybe 3.5 years ago right after my job was eliminated at the small alternative energy company I was working for because the company could not get a Series B round of funding during the crazy 2009 depression. I spent 2 and a half solid years reading all of the classics of psychology and self help, practicing meditation, and testing the methods and techniques on my self and my friends. Learning things like Hypnosis and Neurolinguistic Programming and Cognitive Psychology has been really fun.

I don’t want to sound like a charlatan but I created the company by myself as a LLC in the beginning and was the only employee for a good 3 months before bringing along a partner who is the Chief Advisor of the company. 90% of the work and development of the company is done by me since this company is my idea and I hold complete accountability and responsibility to the fate and success (or failure) of my company. I had a part time marketing intern to researching the different types of distribution channels and there is another Coach but she doesn’t have any major work yet because I haven’t been able to get enough clients for the company. Marketing is a tricky subject and I am still learning. I wanted to make my company history and practices completely transparent. 

It may turn out after years of research and study by me and me posting and writing articles on here that being able to grow taller or increase our height after the bones are sealed is impossible. What will happen to the people who had dedicated so many years of their life to this pursuit if they realize finally that it is not possible? Their world and belief system could collapse.

A brilliant hypnotherapist once said that the reason why we are unhappy is often not the reason we think it is.

When a person goes to a therapist, counselor, or psychiatrist because they are suffering from some psychological issue, what they came to the to clinic or office for is often revealed not to be the real problem that they have been trying to deal with and confront.

From the teaching of the best in the self help community, here is the basic 4 tenet which I have reached in conclusion.

Principle 1: People are mainly controlled by the two main forces of pain and pleasure. From an evolutionary and economics perspective, the force of pain and the need to avoid pain is a far greater force of an influence and control than pleasure. 

Principle 2: The only reason why we as people never do what we are supposed to do is because of FEAR. That fear is preventing us from doing the hard work and developing the type of discipline within ourselves that is neccesary to push us to the other side, which is achievement. 

Principle 3: We often feel like we are struggling against the world and always competing against other people just so that we can get a piece of the happiness and resources to satisfy ourselves and ensure our survival, comfort, and security. The struggle is too overwhelming for us to deal with at many times and that leads to anxiety, which is the main mental destroyer inside of us.

Principle 4: The main 4 fear that goes through our head is this.

1. I will not be loved

2. I will lose the respect and/or love of someone who I respect/love one day if I don’t continue to act, be, or look a certain way.

3. I want to love and accept myself but I can’t because of some reason I created in my own head which may not really

4. I am not enough

As for myself, I am over 6 feet tall when I measure myself when I get out of bed in the morning. Afterwards when the night comes along, that height does decreased to less than 5’11.5″ , sometimes down to even 5′ 11.25″ . I remember maybe 3 years ago that I would measure my height every day in the morning when I woke up. I drew a horizontal line to mark where the 6 foot mark was. I was happy when I was over that mark , but it would obviously drop down as the day went on. I found myself always wondering, always checking, always in some state of deep anxiety. Of course during that time, I recently lost my job with no relationship so I was left to my own imagination to keep my days filled so maybe my brain decided to create some project for me to take on.

I realize now that my desire to increase my height and become taller may not be completely logically justified. I am currently living in an Asian country where the average height of adult men seem to be around 5’8″-5’9″.

I actually remember when I was 13 years old and realizing that I was a lot taller and bigger than other people in my class. I would look at a class photo and think I was a freak for being so much taller and bigger than the other people in my class and wished that somehow I could squeeze myself back down to the ordinary size of the others. I remember nights wondering what it would be like to be smaller, faster, and more agile like a ninja that could climb walls, jump over buildings, and fly in the air. When I think about why I am dissatified with my own height and why I desire to be even taller I realize at some level that my desire to become physically bigger than other people is mainly because I have failed to be mentally superior to other people. Every person who I have ever tried to compare my intellect with has achieved more, created more, and have been educated better than me. A part of me is very insecure and uncomfortable to know that I never managed to get the type of professional success that I always secretly wished for.

From a very early age in my life, the family that I was raised in prized and values intellectual and mental power and ability over all else. I believed in the idea that my sense of worth was determined by how intelligent I was. Thoughout my elementary and middle school days, I was consistently ranked as a tope student and I felt good about myself because I was good in school . The values I had correlated well with my performance in life so I was happy. At some point later on in my High School days, I developed some strange ideas and decided that I wanted to become either an acetic or monk because I had read so many books on spirituality and eastern philosophy. I lost all desire to do well in school and almost dropped out of High School. Through most great help by my parents, I managed to barely finish High School but by then, all of my old academic achievements were destroyed and I suddenly realized that my future looked grim. Some how I got into a respectable state school and went into the an applied sciences field and pushed myself to be the best in school. I wanted to prove to myself and others that I was not going to be a loser, a failure in life because I was stupid.

After 5 years later and giving up on trying to get a double degree in two types of engineering, I had done well enough to give myself the type of validation to say that “Yes, I am good enough. I am worthy to be respected, befriended ,and maybe even loved.” It would take only about 9 months into my first job out of school before the company lost all the funding and I lost what I thought was the best job for a person like me. It was at that time that my own sense of worth was deeply questioned again. Thus, my subconscious probably told me to look for something within me or about me that I could have some form of pride or self esteem about, something which is permanent and can not be changed or taken away, unlike a job which had defined me for so long. Since I found that I seemed to be taller than average, I focused back on that and wanted to be so much bigger, so much taller than others so that I could have at least that one thing to claim that makes me feel special and unique about myself. At the same time, I had discovered that my entire dating life and history was nonexistence but that could be drastically improved on. I decided to identify myself with something which I thought I could become extemely good at but also be separated away from the people who I felt I could never compete intellectually with.

I wanted to win at some aspect of life which could make me feel better about myself. If I could not be the smartest person in the room or the most accomplished I can be the tallest person in the room and have the best looking, most amazing girlfriend.

When I now think about how my thinking went and why I did what I did I realize that a part of my thinking makes total sense from a Psychology point of view. Maybe it just took some time and life to fully realize that I can not be the best at everything or that I could be the best at even one thing.