Going off of the topic of the last post I sort of had another flash of insight on why the more I thought about the issue of females who develop this need to always wear high heels. I had been putting all of them in a single category but I think now maybe there is actually two groups.

The last time I looked at my sister, an old girlfriend’s mother, Victoria Beckham, Kim Kardashian, Tila Tequila, and some honorable mentions like Little Kim and Amanda Seyfried. I tried to group them all together into one unque groups, girls who are below average in height who develop height complexes and try to overcompensate by wearing high heels. However that may have been the cause but I forgot to consider what could be the individual girl’s desired intention and result from wearing the high heels. Is the reason they are wearing high heels to look better and be more attractive to the opposite sex, or could there be another darker desire?

First of all, my opinion has to effect whatsoever on the life path and end result of the girls I am trying to psycho-analyze. Maybe today was a slow day and I just wanted to write a long post on some boring mental masturbation topic which will never get more than  5 people ever seeing it. And that’s okay. However maybe this post will help the reader understand the thinking process of girls who feel that they are too short and wish deeply to become taller.

I would divide the groups of girls into two groups, the feminine and the masculine. The feminine are the girls who desire to wear heels so that they can be more liked by guys and be treated better. The masculine are the girls who purposely always wear the high heels to overcome some sort of challenge and feel the need to dominate and intimidate, if that extra height would even work out.

With girls like my old gf’s mother and kim kardashian they are probably more on the feminine side. They probably would love to become taller but if they had to give up their beauty and looks for the size, they wouldn’t because that is what they value most and they express a sort of feminine energy. Even in the boardroom and at work, they still exude a feminine energy and understand that ultimately, the masculine way of competition and dominating is not the better way to handle difficulties. In the city I am in, I would guess most girls are feminine so their reasons are for the feminine ones. They desire to be liked more, fit into society so they don’t get ridiculed, and be more attractive so they get more attention.

With girls like my sister, tila tequila, and victoria beckham they have the masculine energy. At some deep level they really do feel lacking in some quality and they desire to always be in control, and be winning. They would give up their looks for size because their ultimate value is more about controlling, dominating, and winning through competition. At some level they realize most people in the world, but especially men will always be bigger than them. They feel intimidated and feel sort of helpless over the fact that they will never directly know what it feels like to wield that type of strength. They may have tried to using force and just persistence an effort break through social barriers. The perfect example is Hajnal Ban, Australian Politician. She is an aggresive strong female who really goes after what she wants.  Many women who always wear high heels at work say they do it so that they can be lightly more intimidating and strong like a man so that the men and other women will respect them more. This is about respect, which is not a feminine trait. We saw from the People magazine quote by Victoria Beckham that she wanted to break past the modeling fashion industry even when they thought she was not tall enough. She eventually succeeded but for that type of success with so much rejection, a female must develop the types of qualities and traits which would be traditionally thought as masculine.

I think at some core level, anyone who desires to be taller have either a predominantly feminine or masculine reason. There will be a mixture of both reasons but almost always, one of the energies is slightly stronger and larger.

The feminine desire to be taller is to be stop ridicule and bullying, gain more acceptance by other people, win love from a person who might not have considered the person before because of size, and be more attractive. Their way of influence is through compromise and soft seduction.

The masculin desire to be taller is to gain more respect, intimidating, commanding  authority, overcome challenges, and pushing to win in competition. Their way of influence is through charm and persistence.