This is another major issue that I think needs to be resolved for any men who are noticing that they are not getting any luck on the romance and relationships department from the possibility that they are not tall enough to hit that height cut-off point in female expectations. Interesting I don’t think I have ever heard of a female complain that a guy is too tall for her to date, only too short. For the reverse, I have heard of men who have complained their female romantic interest was both too short and too tall.

We’ve heard the #1 reason why so many (average and short ) females who are willing to date and have sex with short males but don’t ultimately marry and mate with them state. The message is always ” I am afraid that if I marry/mate/ have kids with this man, my kids will end up short (like me) and they will be get bullied, ostracized, rejected, have less chances and opportunities for career advancement, and have a lower quality of life. They might not even find a great, high quality mate because they might turn out to be short ” – This is what they are really thinking and going through their head, and what they are willing to share or admit when you pressure the females to admit their real intentions, reasons for strange (and often cruel) actions, and rationalizations/ justifications. (If I am sounding bitter and resentful, there is actually a good reason for this. Read to the end.)

Other reasons they give (but not limited to) are …

1. I want a big guy/male who can protect me and feel safe.
2. Only an above average  in height/tall man can make me feel safe and secure.
3. Only a big, tall man can make me fee like a real feminine woman/girl.
4. It just feels right to be with tall men
5. It just “looks” good to be with tall men.
6. I have always had a preference for tall guys…
7. I have always had a “thing” for tall guys…
8. I have only dated guys who are at least 6 feet tall but usually taller.
9. I can’t imagine spending the rest of my life with a guy who is only at my eye level.
10. I want to look up when I kiss him.
11. I want to be the feminine one in the relationship and if he is short, I would feel too masculine
12. I am a high quality female who has it all so I DESERVE to be with someone just as high quality as me.
13. I am tall already myself. It would only make sense that I MUST be with a guy who is even taller.
14. My father and brothers, and other relatives are all tall so my husband should be too.
15. I want the man to be big and strong so he can pick me up and carry me like the romance movies.
16. And the list for female justification & rationalization continues on and on…

I can not even begin to state the countless (and I do mean COUNTLESS) number of times that I have heard through my ears or have heard from the anecdotal stories of other people who know someone or who themselves have rejected, or been by rejected, by potential romantic and dating partners due to a lack of height. In the dating world, size matters, and it matters a whole lot. There are enough studies done which showed that in terms of first impressions for guys, their height is the #1 determinant of a females attraction of them, if other factors like clothing, style of dress, shoes, hair cleaniless, and facial attractiveness is held constant.

[Note: Obviously over the subject of the factor Facial Attractiveness, that is not as measurable or quantifiable like height, and this factor is extremely subjective and variable.]

I posted two articles way back entitled “Love Is A Battlefield And You Are Going To Be Slaughtered” and “Why Tall Men Have Prettier Girlfriends, The Correlation Of Height And Attraction” that when it comes to our most primal and basic levels, of all the qualities which a guy needs to be successful for reproduction and passing on his genes, which is really all that this universe and nature desires of us, our height is probably #1 in all the attributes we must have. So this post is not about arguing or trying to convince the reader of this point. Let’s assume that these prepositions are a given. Two famous quotes that has reached the general public’s lexicon is “Love is a battlefield” ( as nicely stately by Pat Benatar, Jordin Sparks, & Li’l Wayne) and “All is fair in love and war”

[Note 2: For our discussion for this post, I wanted to focus on the side where the female is on the short side and she chooses a tall male to mate and reproduce with. There is cases and examples where the situation is reverse where a short male chooses always to date and mate with tall females, but I wanted to focus on the more common case. Plus, we can use the same type of psychological reasoning and mathematical equations to calculate for offpring height results. ]

This huge trend has effected my siblings, myself, my parents, and my past dating life.

• One of my sisters actually left her  below average in height boyfriend to be with his friend who was tall.
• My old girlfriend left me to be with her current boyfriend who is 5-6 inches taller than me.
• The current girl I am dating specifically chose me because I was taller than most guys she has met.
• My mother never seems to be able to stop focusing on tall men if she saw one. She has to point them out and admire them from far away.
• My other old girlfriend liked me because I was tall for her.
• Another old girlfriend said the main reason her mother married her father was because he was tall
• The tallest guys I know in life are all married with kids.
• The other group of tallest guys are having a very active sex life with multiple partners.

Maybe a part of me is still stinging over what happened with me being left for another guy who is clearly much taller. I could argue that he had a better job than me, went to a better school than me, and had a brighter future on money making than me, as well being closer to her physically, but all those things are something that can be changed with enough hard work and dedication. It is the height thing that is something I have no control over and can’t change, yet.  The resentment, anger, and jealousy is definitely not that healthy. I don’t know whether I should be angry at her because she decided to “trade up” and found something better like a Machivallian strategist who is always looking for someone or something better to come along. The fact that she immediately starting dating him the same day she left me is a hard thing to swallow. That she was meeting him when we were still together (but just as “friends”) knowing full well his intentions and kindly rejecting him makes me angry, even almost 1 year later. May I find peace with this one day.